Learning to relax

Learning to relax

There are millions of tiny disturbances we have to deal with every single day. It can be hard to deal with a lot of it, especially when you’re already in a negative mood or have been having a bad day. Once you’ve learned to relax yourself, though, you will have a much easier time dealing with life’s natural stressors.


(Flickr/Lucia Fantasia)

(Flickr/Lucia Fantasia)

Take a breath.

First things first, take a breath. The easiest way to control your anger, lower your stress levels, and begin to think more clearly is by taking a moment to breathe rather than reacting immediately. Breathe in, count to ten, and breathe out. Even doing this simple trick once can instantly help you feel better, and the more pauses you take to do this, the better you’ll feel.


There are only two options; you can control the situation, or you cannot.

Make this your motto. Learn it and believe it. Once you’ve done this, you will have a significantly easier time letting go of the stress you are holding in over uncontrollable things. When you get upset, take a moment to think to yourself, “Can I control this?” If the answer is yes, great! Now you can proceed to take care of the situation. If you can’t control this situation, remind yourself of that. If you know you can’t control a situation, you’ll have an easier time coming to terms with it.


Repair what you can.

If you can fix a negative situation, do it. Rather than sitting around and complaining about it, get up and do something. Sitting on your anger will only leave you more upset. The sooner you get to repairing whatever situation is stressing you out, the sooner you’ll be able to relax.


Never go to bed angry.

Going to bed angry can lead to waking up angry, and waking up angry can lead to having a very bad day. Try your hardest to either fix what you can, or calm yourself down and let go of the anger. You will have a much better night’s sleep, and you will wake up feeling much more refreshed when you know that the problem is solved or forgotten.


Don’t hold it in.

If you are angry and cannot seem to calm yourself down, let the anger out. Make sure you don’t take it out on another person, though. Rather get in the car, turn up the radio, and scream. Make use of whatever outlet best helps you let your anger out without having to take it out on someone else.


The world will always throw negative situations at you and there will always be a reason to be upset, but don’t give in. It’s not about what happens, it’s about how you react to what happens. So let go, breathe, and calm yourself. You will feel much more at peace and have a significantly easier time dealing with the negative when you learn to relax.


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