4 Signs Your Co-workers Think You’re a Jerk
We all have our own paranoia about adopting an assertive stance at a job. How do you know if you are over-thinking it or if your coworkers really do think you are a jerk? Although the absolute best advice would be for you to self-reflect and see what behavior might have caused the reaction, some of us might take something small that the office did not think twice about and assume everyone is out to get them. To avoid these kinds of issues in the workplace, check out this list of four serious signs to watch out for:
1. You Are “Forgotten”: Although this might happen for completely innocent reasons, this is something to take seriously. If you are forgotten for a meeting or a company e-mail that was intended to help you and your team improve or further a project, this is a bad sign.
According to a Monster article, “the sign you probably have gone from ‘jerk’ to someone who has been voted off the island is reassignment to the ‘important’ high-level project that really isn’t destined to go anywhere but it does help move you out of the way while your replacement is groomed and put in place.”
If you feel that you are being forgotten, do not bring it up directly. Try to make more friendly (but still professional) connections with other people on your team that would receive the e-mail. Just be sure to stay on top of your work and assignments and show that you really are a part of the team.
2. Unexpected Obstacles: If you find that you are having a hard time getting the board room for a group meeting or you are having to wait an especially long time for that file, your co-workers might be lagging on purpose.
People in the administration department deserve just as much respect as the rest of your co-workers on your team. You might not think you have been asking too much or ordering them around, but they might. In which case, they are not going to be doing you any special favors.
Check your attitude and behavior towards people that you are asking for help from, and make sure you are being pleasant and understanding, not demanding and impatient.
3. Lack of Response: You might find that your e-mails take hours, if not days to get returned, or you feel that people do not call you back in a timely manner. If this is the case, you might gently bring it up and ask, “hey, did you get my message? I was hoping I could get your opinion / help on…” Just be sure to be sensitive and make sure that whether or not they are avoiding you, your approach comes off as pleasant and professional.
4. You Are Always the Last to Know: This might not be as intentional as it sounds, but if people avoid telling you about the Christmas party, benefit, event, or company outing, they might be doing so because they simply are not looking forward to having you; be sure it is the case that you are always the last to know before you jump to any conclusions. If you feel this is happening to you, maybe you should try to be more involved in the planning of these events and try to lend a helping hand.
Do you feel that any of these things are happening to you? How would you approach it? Tell me in the comments below or tweet me @kateeb790!